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Can I Touch Your Hair? Hell no!

Hello Love Bugs!!

I hope you are all doing well. It has been such a long time!

I had the wonderful pleasure of snagging a job in my desired career. While I am extremely happy to be out of health care, I have gone from being the majority to being in my minority.

My company is becoming more diversified though. Just the other day I walked by a fellow African American who was a new hire. We smiled and she let me know: “I love your hair!”

Of course I thanked her and went on about my way. After being natural for 7 years, I am use to the complements but this one stuck out to me. Simply because I have been at my job for 4 months and it is the first time someone mentioned my hair.

I immediately began to wonder: “Do white people like natural black hair?”

I recall only one other occasional this past year when a white person paid me a compliment. I was at a restaurant and our greeter looked at me and proclaimed excitedly: “Oh I love your hair! It looks so soft I just want to touch it!” At that point she began to hover over my head and started making motions of what she would be doing if she could play in hair.

This of course happened a month or so after I watched Dear White People. As portrayed in the movie, I have always envisioned white people wanting to play in my hair with amazement. Maybe anytime a white person looks as if they are interested in my hair I instantly mean mug them, stereotyping.

I have never had a white person touch my hair. I have had multiple black people touch my hair. I can not tell you how many times I have had some person come up to me and grab a curl, rub my hair, grab and sniff my hair, etc etc.

So- Just because you are black does not mean you can touch my hair! We always joke about white people doing it, but it is a rule for everyone. Black, White, Pink, Purple, Woman, Man, Natural, Weave, etc etc etc. No one should touch my hair. In fact don’t ask to touch my hair. Simply ask what you want to know.

Want to know how long it is? I will stretch a curl out to show you. Want to know if it is my hair that smells like coconut? I will answer yes and tell you the product. Ask if you can touch it? I will tell you no.

So let’s remember….don’t fall into stereotypes or do things you stereotype another race for doing.

Happy Holidays!

Top Five Natural Hair Products

So I get asked all the time what I put in my hair…so I thought I might as well do a blog about it! Here are my top five must haves!

CantuCantu Repair Cream & Conditioner: I always suggest this to those who are just starting out. It isn’t expensive ($4.99 for 16oz) and it will moisture and curl the most stubborn hair. The downside is it doesn’t mix well with other products. When mixed with another cream, it creates lil white balls. Because of this, I rarely use it. However if I have been swimming unprotected in chlorine, salt water, or have just dyed my hair etc, I use Cantu to get my hair back in tip top shape.

Cantu Hair LotionCantu Shea Butter Creamy Hair Lotion: Now this is my everyday leave in. At $7.99 it is still well priced and it smells great! Every day someone will say “Who has coconut on? It smells so good!” It hydrates and keeps my curls looking amazing. Downside – If you go to heavy it leaves your hair kinda wet. Also be prepared for people to constantly come up and sniff your head, which may not be a downside but it sometimes drives me crazy!

SheaMoisture ShampooSheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Shine Shampoo: My favorite shampoo! Still priced right at $7.99 but often drugstores such as CVS will have “buy one get one free”. I always stock up. I have never liked any other natural hair shampoo as I have SheaMoisture. It has a nice short ingredient list and it doesn’t contain any sulfates.

TRESemme Hair ConditionerTRESemme Naturals Vibrantly Smooth Conditioner: My favorite wash out conditioner. I personally think this does the best in my hair. When it comes to conditioners my hair is very fickle and this is the only conditioner that makes my hair and curls look and feel great. I have tried others and none compare for the cheap price of $5.99. Also this is my go to for co-washing.

detanglerTaliah Waajid The Great Detangler: Where would I be without this stuff!? I have yet to find another detangler that comes close to comparing. It is a little pricey at $7.99 for only 8oz. I don’t know about you, but that only last about three washes for me if I’m lucky. However I only detangle my hair once a month so I guess it depends on how often you use it. I still think it is worth it though. I put some on my hair while still in the shower and my tangles practically disappear. It is a life and pain saver!

*While these are my favs, everyone’s hair is different and I always suggest people experiment to find out what works best for them!*

Natural Hair: Foam Roller Set

Photo on 2-11-14 at 10.02 AM #4


This is my first natural hair blog so bare with me. I usually only do youtube videos but with such a busy schedule, I find it may be easier to do some written blogs. Not to mention, if I start rambling, you can just scroll down and get to the good stuff! 🙂

So this is a blog on a foam roller set I decided to do. I feel my hair is growing kinda slow and I recently dyed it ,1/1/14, so I am trying to do more protective styles to keep it healthy. Personally I am not a fan of the foam rollers. They take me back to the days when I was a child and had to get my hair relaxed and tightly rolled for Easter. Hated the process and hated the curls. However I recently tried a dry and wet set with Flexi Rods and my hair was not going for it! After all that freaking work it refused to curl correctly. So I thought I would go back to the basics.


  • Wide Tooth Comb
  • Water
  • Palmers Cocoa Butter Moisturizing Hair Oil
  • ic Hair Polisher Styling Gel
  • Foam Rollers (What ever size you like)
  • Hair Bands/Ties








  1. I start with separating the back and front of my hair. I only finger part. So I use a hair band to secure the front of my hair.
  2. I start rolling in the back, so I section off a small section of hair, and use a hair tie to secure the hair I am not working with.
  3. Wet the sectioned off hair and use your wide tooth comb to detangle.
  4. Take a small amount of gel and work it through the sectioned hair.
  5. Next, stretch out the section and start to roll it on the rollers (I have no idea how to effectively explain this step. If you don’t know how to roll your hair please check the roller package for instructions). Secure.
  6. Repeat until your entire head is done!
  7. Air or heat dry (I am not a heat fan so I air dried over night and into the next day).
  8. Once hair is dry, spray it with the Moisturizing oil.
  9. Remove curlers, unwinding them at an angle so you get spiral curls.
  10. Separate to your hearts content and style!!


The Results:

I got decent curls. I must admit though, my hair isn’t completely dry. My hair is thick so it usually doesn’t air dry unless  I am constantly taking it down and re-rolling. Which means in an hour or so I will probably have major shrinkage. However I am ok with that and tonight I well re-roll it just on dry hair. It can also be twisted before bed to maintain curls.

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